Post by skylime™ on Apr 3, 2007 2:15:56 GMT -5
Do's and Don'ts in dating relationships
• Don’t forget your first love. That’s Jesus! When you set your affection too heavily on anyone else but Him, you set yourself up for a big fall. Jesus will never break your heart!
• Don’t let your emotions take over. Feelings are fickle, and they can steer you in the wrong direction, thus causing you to draw the wrong conclusions about yourself and your situation. When you feel upset, release your emotions with a good hard cry or workout. Emotions aside, you can get a fresh perspective.
• Don’t lose your self-esteem. Ninety-nine percent of girls who get rejected respond by questioning themselves. Am I not good enough, cute enough, thin enough, smart enough, rich enough, cool enough? How can I be what he wants? Stop it! This would be a good time to review all the special things about yourself and all the blessings you have in your life. Focus on those. Don’t let rejection rock your confidence.
• Don’t devalue yourself. Beware! Many girls think they are less valuable without a guy’s approval. Big lie! Your value as a person is not based on your dating status. It’s based on God. As Christians, we have been purchased by the Most High God who paid the incredibly high price of His own Son’s life just to have us as His own! You have worth beyond measure.
• Do acknowledge the pain. Of course it hurts to be rejected. You don’t have to put on a brave front and deny it. Let it out. Write it down. Talk about it. Cry to the Lord. Psalm 34:18 says, "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
• Do keep God at the center of your life. In the Psalms, David refers to God as his Solid Rock. When you build your life on the Rock, you won’t be shaken quite so hard when people come and go. Let’s face it: Friends are fickle. Parents split up. Guys lose interest. With God as your center, your hope and reason for living remains intact no matter what hurricane threatens to blow you over!
• Do control your self-talk! If you keep playing a hurtful scene or conversation over and over in your mind, it can cause you to spiral downward into depression. Challenge yourself to think and say positive things to yourself.
• Do stay focused on the greater purpose of your teen years. This is the time of life to develop your gifts, talents, hobbies, interests and future. Dating can quickly throw a girl off course and steal precious time. Refocus yourself on reaching your potential!
• Do remember all the benefits of being single. Just think, you can totally be yourself without worrying if a guy is impressed. You can rent a bunch of chick-flicks while eating popcorn by the handfuls. You never have to stress over having a fight with your boyfriend that could ruin your whole day. You never have to think about having kissable breath. You can make fun and wacky weekend plans with your girlfriends. You don’t risk becoming pinkually involved. You have more time to say "yes" to those baby-sitting jobs and save your big bucks for something cool
• Don’t forget your first love. That’s Jesus! When you set your affection too heavily on anyone else but Him, you set yourself up for a big fall. Jesus will never break your heart!
• Don’t let your emotions take over. Feelings are fickle, and they can steer you in the wrong direction, thus causing you to draw the wrong conclusions about yourself and your situation. When you feel upset, release your emotions with a good hard cry or workout. Emotions aside, you can get a fresh perspective.
• Don’t lose your self-esteem. Ninety-nine percent of girls who get rejected respond by questioning themselves. Am I not good enough, cute enough, thin enough, smart enough, rich enough, cool enough? How can I be what he wants? Stop it! This would be a good time to review all the special things about yourself and all the blessings you have in your life. Focus on those. Don’t let rejection rock your confidence.
• Don’t devalue yourself. Beware! Many girls think they are less valuable without a guy’s approval. Big lie! Your value as a person is not based on your dating status. It’s based on God. As Christians, we have been purchased by the Most High God who paid the incredibly high price of His own Son’s life just to have us as His own! You have worth beyond measure.
• Do acknowledge the pain. Of course it hurts to be rejected. You don’t have to put on a brave front and deny it. Let it out. Write it down. Talk about it. Cry to the Lord. Psalm 34:18 says, "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
• Do keep God at the center of your life. In the Psalms, David refers to God as his Solid Rock. When you build your life on the Rock, you won’t be shaken quite so hard when people come and go. Let’s face it: Friends are fickle. Parents split up. Guys lose interest. With God as your center, your hope and reason for living remains intact no matter what hurricane threatens to blow you over!
• Do control your self-talk! If you keep playing a hurtful scene or conversation over and over in your mind, it can cause you to spiral downward into depression. Challenge yourself to think and say positive things to yourself.
• Do stay focused on the greater purpose of your teen years. This is the time of life to develop your gifts, talents, hobbies, interests and future. Dating can quickly throw a girl off course and steal precious time. Refocus yourself on reaching your potential!
• Do remember all the benefits of being single. Just think, you can totally be yourself without worrying if a guy is impressed. You can rent a bunch of chick-flicks while eating popcorn by the handfuls. You never have to stress over having a fight with your boyfriend that could ruin your whole day. You never have to think about having kissable breath. You can make fun and wacky weekend plans with your girlfriends. You don’t risk becoming pinkually involved. You have more time to say "yes" to those baby-sitting jobs and save your big bucks for something cool
